Generally described as a conscious and deliberate decision by psychologists to release feelings of anger or retaliation against someone who has hurt you, it is as difficult to practice as possible to achieve lasting happiness. Let’s see how The Power of Forgiveness affects you.
Our body releases higher than the normal amount of different hormones and neurotransmitters when we feel injured, so our body gets overloaded with adrenaline and other chemicals that produce a physical and impulsive negative rush to respond. While these feelings can be perfectly safe when they are rarely and under control, they can have dramatic effects on the body, mind, and soul when they become especially severe or long lasting.
These changes begin to affect all organs, metabolism, sleep, mood and a long list that goes on and on, if they last longer than short-term. Hatred and aggression are working against physical well-being and mental health. It’s chipping away at our happiness and clouding our ability to enjoy the moment.
Angst to get injured again
When someone hurts you badly, we are left with an emotional scar which makes it difficult to forgive. And we prefer to distance ourselves from others because of this emotional wound, or shut ourselves away from the world out of fear of having the same traumatic experience and being hurt again. That could mean you’re only shielding yourself from the trauma or pain you’ve endured. So leave no room for grace for you.
Anyway there is a tiny but strong stream of thought opposing us such forgiveness. On the basis of any of its detrimental effects on a violent, manipulative, or recidivist abuser, forgiveness is interpreted as a symptom of weakness that merely reinforces the transgressor. But let’s make some big remarks, significant.
• The gap between forgiving and forgetting is immense. Pardon does not mean reconciling with the person who hurt you. It’s not about pretending that what happened is all right or re-establishing some sort of relationship with that person. You do not forget. In reality, you should always try to make sure you don’t get hit twice in this case.
• The distinction between intentionally and purposely committed crimes is also important. Pardoning also needs drastic action. It has to drive someone out of our lives, or even alter our everyday habits for good. It just takes massive doses of modesty and good will, most of the time.
Forgiveness in this manner does not preclude the right to pursue justice or restitution for the aggressor as well as just punishment. But far from the potential detrimental consequences for a dangerous criminal it may bring, redemption is still a cure for the offended one.
• Supports mental and physical wellbeing as it ends the cycle of persistent negative effects of frustration.
• It helps restore relationships, as it encourages us to see the importance of others.
When we are in a visible or secret conflict with others, there’s no way to achieve lasting happiness. Just to begin with, and according to a survey of more than 650 adults over 2 years, sustained conflict with others is strongly correlated with lower self-rated health and more health problems.